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A broken relationship is something nearly impossible to fix. Relationships end for numerous reasons.
You came here looking for ways to restore a broken relationship. I’m not sure if I have the answers you want.
Having wasted a good chunk of my life trying to restore what I now see as a relationship that was broken, the following will hopefully enable you to see the light that sometimes you just have to let it go.
Let’s assume for a moment your ex partner has made it clear in no uncertain manner they no longer want you in their life – well, not in an intimate way at least.
How will you re-act? What will you do? Will you continue to try and convince them they’re making a big mistake?
The truth is, if you continue along this path then it’s you who will be making a big mistake.
Broken Relationship vs. Tough Love
This is going to require some tough love. My best advice is to speak with someone you know who has a “forty foot view” of your situation.
The following was what I was told about my broken relationship and it hurt like hell when I realized what I needed to do.
I let it linger for so long hoping to get my partner back, the fallout was worse.
Why was your relationship is broken? Did they cheat? Did you cheat? Has the relationship just run its course? Did your partner simply fall out of love with you?
People get comfortable with what they know best. You know deep down it’s over but you haven’t shaken that “comfortable feeling”.
It’s easier for you to just go back to what you knew and resume what in all probability, wasn’t a happy relationship.
Making up with someone you love is one of the greatest feelings of all. But sometimes you just have to look at reality. Your ex partner has told you it’s over. They don’t contact you anymore.
It’s time you pulled yourself together and moved on because unless you do, you’ll never fully heal.
What’s the point of “flogging a dead horse” if there is absolutely no chance of resurrecting any passion in a relationship.
Here’s the tip…move on. Forget your ex. When it gets to this stage, most just cannot drag themselves away and will continue to hold out hope that it will turn around.
Yes, there’s nothing wrong with holding out hope but take a leaf out of my book and maintain a little dignity.
Why are you continuing to dote after your ex? Doing this is only building their self esteem but more importantly, you’re showing no respect for your own.
Do You Deserve Better? Yes You Do
If you have exhausted every possible avenue in trying to win your ex partner back then stop.
If you haven’t been able to penetrate the wall of defense they’ve put up, then it means one thing, it’s time to move on.
I was given six ways to finally “put this thing to bed”. It was consuming my life but I was too close to it to see it.
I refused to listen to advice until someone “hit me right between the eyes” with the truth.
Maybe this will help you. I hope so. Life is too short to spend it in false hope on someone who obviously doesn’t care about you.
I’m not sure how long you’ve been in this phase but if it’s more than six months, it’s time to close this book. Just for your information, I was stuck in this cycle of hope and despair for four years. Please don’t do that.
6 Tips To Get Over Your Broken Relationship
You need to stop moping. This is character deflating and self esteem destroying and just about any other self destructive description you can think of.
It’s time to move forward. Hey, your ex has moved forward. They’ve made the decision to live their lives without you. Let’s not be politically correct here – in reality, they probably don’t care what you do with your life as long as it’s not being part of theirs.
Let go. Once you’ve made the decision to let go, do something for several days which will help take your mind off things. Eat ice cream, go to a fun park and spend a day or two riding the scariest rides. Take a vacation such as a cruise or somewhere where you can intermingle with others but above all, do not talk about your ex.
Write a list. Now, here’s the fun part. When you think you’ve come to your senses, sit down and write a list of qualities you want in a partner.
What are the qualities you’re looking for? This is even more fun – ask yourself whether your ex has these qualities. Chances are, they don’t.
Make these qualities work for you. Now you have a checklist of what you want in a partner. These are the qualities you want in someone you want to spend the rest of your life with.
Broken Relationship – Final Thoughts
I want to reiterate that this advice is for you if you have exhausted every avenue in trying to fix your broken relationship.
As I said earlier, I don’t know why your relationship is broken but please don’t be me.
Don’t waste four years of your life chasing something that should have been put to bed within the first six months.
I realize some of you will be married and there are kids involved.
Yes, it’s tough to make a decision like this but again, for your own sanity, you have to.
If you have kids, don’t you think they would want a parent who’s in control of their emotions, thoughts and actions.
Someone who’s strong and confident.
Last thought? I was told this…
”If you think you want your ex back then chances are you don’t. It’s more than likely just a case of having become comfortable with what you had. If that’s true, it’s time to step out of your comfort zone and regain your peace”.