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How To Stop A Break Up – The 6 Things You Must Stop Doing Today
Knowing how to stop a break up starts with prevention. You know the old adage – prevention is better than cure.
That applies in all walks of life including relationships.
Once a break up is in motion it’s almost impossible to stop. It depends if you are wise enough to catch the early signs. And there are plenty of them.
I am amazed how many miss the warning signs when talking with people about their relationship issues. More to the point, when they’ve been dumped and want to get their partners back. My question is “didn’t you see the signs?”
The truth is, when this has happened, chances of getting them back are very slim. Oh sure, there are occasions when a break up was completely out of your hands but that is a story for another day.
This article is about solidifying your relationship while you’re in it. Doing the things you should be doing so “the rot doesn’t set it”. When things become stagnant, mold appears and this is what you must prevent.
How To Stop A Break Up Before The Cracks Appear
So why do relationships take a turn for the worse? And do you notice it’s never really a mutual agreement between a couple to suddenly decide their relationship has no future and they should split amicably.
One person is usually on the receiving end for a variety of reasons. What follows is usually total despair when one or the other doesn’t want to let go. A question for you – what end are you currently on? Are you noticing that things don’t seem to be working like they used to?
- The chemistry has waned.
- Your humor doesn’t get a laugh anymore.
- You find yourself going out by yourself a lot more.
- Or you’re getting a lot more excuses from your partner that they can’t.
Warning signs – all of them. And there are plenty more but I think you get the idea.
So what are you going to do about it? Think prevention. Who knows, it may already be too late because it doesn’t take much for things to get to a point of no return. When someone in relationship and marriage circles has made up their mind, it’s tough to reverse.
Let’s take a look at some of the things which can cause a relationship to break up. Making relationships work is pretty much common sense.
How to stop a break up? If you recognize any of these signs and you’re still in a relationship and want to stay there, then it may be time to make some changes.
6 Relationship Killers You Need To Know About To Stop A Break Up
This is simply about behavior. If this is you doing these things then firstly, you need to stop. If it’s your partner, then it maybe time to ask them to sit down with you and talk about why your relationship may be “in the sink”.
Figuring out how to stop a break up is not about a “magical pill” solution. There are certain factors and by correcting them, you are preventing them from getting worse.
Reversing their impact must start immediately and while it could take a little time, basically what your partner will be looking for is the person they first fell in love with. Can you be that person again?
Stop A Break Up By Stopping Stagnant Behavior
Stagnant behavior is one of the biggest killers of a relationship. This means one or the other or both become comfortable.
How could this happen when at the beginning, two people just wanted to be in each other’s arms all the time? It’s about doing the “one-per-centers”.
Avoid the trap of taking each other for granted and keep thinking back to when you were in the courting phase. What did you do to make each other happy? What was it you loved about each other?
Lack Of Trust
Lack of trust is a fast track to relationship oblivion. Trust is one of the core elements of making relationships work.
Lack of trust can be caused by feelings of jealousy, being too clingy and possessive and of course, infidelity.
Apart from the last point, the others are dangerous to a relationship and need to be tempered. As for infidelity, well, once bitten, twice shy and your decision to forgive and continue on is totally yours to make.
Speaking of infidelity, it’s a tough situation to be in. Was it caused by lack of intimacy from your partner?
I believe in second chances depending on the circumstances but two strikes and you’re out.
Cheating will kill most relationships and if you sincerely love your partner, then there’s just one piece of advice you need to heed. Don’t do it!
Lack Of Respect
Lack of respect is a major problem that seems to get understated when discussing relationship problems.
One of the worse displays of lack of respect is putting your partner down. That’s in your own home, when you are out in public or with friends and family. This is a dangerous exercise and while it won’t end a relationship immediately, it chips away at the fabric of it, eventually killing it.
When love dies this way, it’s almost a guarantee that it is the end of the “ball game”. That’s because resentment creeps in and when this happens, the relationship is usually “down for the ten count”.
How To Stop A Break Up? Stop Betrayal
We’re not talking about infidelity. In fact this is probably just as bad. It’s spreading secrets about your partner to your friends and family.
The expression of “keeping it in house” is very relevant to making relationships work. Don’t allow the person you love to become the brunt of other people’s jokes.
People will gossip no matter how much you swear them to secrecy. And when your partner finds out, that feeling of betrayal might just be enough for them to walk out the door. Again, don’t do it.
Obsessive behavior really gets “under the skin” of most people. This is magnified tenfold when it’s obsession over money matters. When one person is continually obsessed with money and totally ignores other aspects of the relationship, there’s really only one place the relationship is going.
Sooner or later, someone’s going to say “enough is enough” or “I can’t take it anymore.” You see, when one person in the partnership is allowed to obsess about money without input from their partner, spending habits are almost always under scrutiny.
Like putting someone down, this is going to wear thin over time and can be the catalyst for future problems. It’s one of the real issues in making relationships work.
Stopping A Break Up – Final Thoughts
Can you recognize any of these things in your relationship? Is it you or your partner?
It doesn’t matter who it is, if you want to stay in this partnership and love your partner, make moves today.
If it’s you, you know what to do. If it’s a combination of both, then diplomatically approach your partner to have a good old fashioned heart to heart.
Don’t ever come out and accuse them from the get go. Be diplomatic. Say something like:
“Honey, I feel I’ve been letting this relationship down and I want to get back to the way it was. Would you please help me be a better husband/wife/partner?”
There’s really only two ways this is going to go. They are going to throw themselves into your arms out of sheer relief or God forbid, things have gone past the point of no return and they’re going to say they want out.
Hopefully it’s the first option. I won’t comment on the second because I don’t know the circumstances. There are plenty of articles on this site to help you with that.
Remember, if your relationship is strong and you’re reading this, print it out and look at it regularly. Your relationship is at stake.