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How long can a friends with benefits relationship last? This is not an easy question to answer because each relationship differs.
For example, a couple who meets regularly will probably tire of each other earlier than two people who meet less regularly.
Experts say the more people hook up the less time they are likely to last. That makes sense.
Meanwhile, friends with benefits relationships are not just for college students. They are also popular among adults who may be too busy to find a partner, or who may want to avoid dating altogether.
However, it is important that you know what you’re getting into before entering into this type of relationship.
This article will answer some of the most common questions about friends with benefits relationships and help you understand what they are all about.
What Are The Pros Of A Friends With Benefits Relationship?
Are there pros and cons to a friends with benefits relationship? Of course there are.
Is this type of relationship recommended? Personally, I’m not a fan but then again, I’m a little old fashioned,
But there’s no holding back progress and if you call a friends with benefits relationship progress, then you should understand that there are good and not so good aspects of it. So, let’s look at the pros and cons. Firstly the pros.
1. You don’t have to commit to anyone.
2. It’s convenient – you can enjoy your sex life without having to worry about commitment.
3. Sex isn’t limited by how much money you make.
4. It’s fun!
5. You can share your sexual fantasies with your partner.
6. You’ll never feel guilty about cheating.
7. It’s great when you need to relax after a stressful day.
8. There’s no pressure from either party. No strings attached.
9. You won’t feel like you’ve committed to anything.
10. You can still go out socially while maintaining your friendship.
11. It gives you the opportunity to explore yourself sexually.
What Are The Cons Of A Friends With Benefits Relationship?
So what about the cons of a friends with benefits relationship? Are there any? Yes there are.
What on the surface appears to be a casual, carefree relationship does have its drawbacks. So let’s look at the cons of being in a friends with benefits relationship.
1. You might end up spending too much time together.
2. It could become difficult to keep secrets.
3. You may end up sleeping with your friend’s boyfriend/girlfriend.
4. If one of you gets serious, you may lose access to the other person.
5. One of you may start feeling jealous.
6. You may begin to resent your friend.
7. Your friendship could suffer.
8. You may eventually fall in love with your friend.
9. You may find yourself wanting to settle down.
10. You may develop feelings for your friend.
11. You may experience emotional problems.
12. You may find yourself becoming dependent on your friend.
When Should You End A Friends With Benefits Relationship?
So when should you end a friends with benefits relationship? Or should you?
The pros and cons should give you a good idea of why you might stop seeing each other for pleasure but when should a friends with benefits relationship end?
At the beginning of this article, we asked how long can a friends with benefits relationship last? Maybe it should be when should it stop?
The answer depends on whether or not you are ready to take things further. If you are not yet ready to commit to another person, then you shouldn’t jump into a friends with benefits relationship right away.
Why? Because once you do decide to enter into something serious, you may find yourself wishing you had waited longer.
If deep down, you feel you are ready to take your relationship to the next level, then you should consider ending your relationship as soon as possible.
Once the two of you decide that you want more than just a sexual relationship, you’re going to have to choose between them.
That’s when things start to get murky.
Who is going to be the first one to “spill the beans” and tell the other that they want more?
The Friend Zone Might Be Better Than A FWB Relationship
If you decide to stay friends, you may find that over time, you miss hanging out with your friend. This is because you have started to see them as more than a friend.
They’re now part of your social life. And although you don’t see them every single day, you will probably still see them several times per month.
This means that even though you are enjoying some sex with them, you’re also missing the companionship they provide. At first, this isn’t a problem, but as time goes by, you may find yourself missing their company.
This is where a friends with benefits relationship becomes problematic. As time passes, you may start to feel guilty about your situation. But you can’t help it. You’ve fallen in love with your friend and you’re not sure how to handle it.
You may try to talk to your friend about your feelings, but they may brush off your concerns. They may say that you’re making too big a deal out of nothing. Or worse, they may tell you that you’re being selfish.
If this happens, you need to realize that you’re not being selfish. In fact, you’re doing what most people would like to do – you’re falling in love with your friend! So instead of telling your friend how you really feel, you may need to accept that you are in love with him/her.
And if you keep avoiding your feelings, it could lead to episodes of depression.
So how did we go from asking how long can a friends with benefits relationship last to suffering from depression?
Put this in the cons basket. There is always a chance one of you is going to fall in love.
So, Once Again…How Long Can It Last?
What started out as a simple relationship where two people were going to have a little fun without the commitment suddenly has turned murky.
Yes, this type of relationship can be good.
The question you should ask yourself is not how long a friends with benefits relationship can last but how long do I want to stay in it.
People start out with good intentions. But the human psyche being what it is, sometimes doesn’t “play ball”.
Feelings are powerful. The longer you stay with a person and enjoy their company the chances become stronger that you want to be with them all the time.
That’s just the way we are wired.
So, thinking about a friends with benefits relationship?
I’d say proceed with caution. Maybe think more of the one night stand if you believe you can walk away from it at anytime without getting your feelings hurt.