So, how long does the honeymoon period last? This is a difficult question to answer, because…
Date night ideas for married couples can range from the benign to the raunchy. Which category would you fall under?
Date nights have become a popular tip from relationship experts lately and many couples have taken advantage of them to reinvigorate their lives together.
Go to most relationship advice sites and a date night will be among the tips to put some spark back in your marriage.
Do they work?
For married couples especially, they are an excellent way to reinvigorate a relationship or maintain that special spark.
They work when they are committed to over a period of time.
Date Nights For Married Couples Are A Habit
It takes twenty one days to form a habit.
While date nights are designed to help couples break from their stale routines and discover one another again, many people dismiss them when after a couple of outings, they slip back into their old ways.
The reason couples need to commit to them over an extended period of time is to give them something to look forward to.
Trying it once won’t cut it.
Twice is still no good but when you do date nights on a regular basis, it’s pattern forming and it’s one day of the week you’ll start to look forward to for a bit of release from your daily grind.
It’s a time you’ll create memories together and you’ll start to look back on them fondly. When you start to do this, they suddenly become an indispensable part of your relationship. You can’t wait for the next one.
How Often Should You Have A Date Night?
Date night ideas for married couples are a dime a dozen. How often should you have them?
Well, that’s up to you. Weekly, every two weeks, three weeks or monthly, whatever works for you. Whatever date night ideas you come up with, you also have to factor in each other’s personalities.
Are you both outgoing? Are you both the stay-in type? Is one of you outgoing and the other not so much?
In the beginning weekly dates are ideal and when you get into your rhythm, space them out further if that suits you better.
But the truth is, it’s more than likely you’ll want to keep them weekly and in many instances, they become so important to couples that they add an extra date in on a regular basis.
They become addictive.
Who Are Date Nights For?
Every couple. Yes they are recommended to put some life back into relationships. That also goes for those of you at the beginning of your marriage. Just start them now.
So, a very important point before I give you my extreme date night idea for married couples.
When planning these get togethers it’s important that you both share the workload. In other words, take turns in organizing your date night.
One couple I know, Tyson and Isabelle loved the idea of going on a date even though they were married.
They decided to try it. Things were going great for a couple of months when I checked in but it wasn’t long after that it all started going “pear-shaped”.
What happened? Well, it turns out Isabelle was the one organizing the dates and eventually she ran out of ideas. She started going back over old ground and worse still, kept choosing her favorite outings.
It didn’t take Tyson long to start complaining.
He actually didn’t like to eat or watch the same type of movies or visit the same attractions as Isabelle did…most of the time.
But that’s what being a couple is all about right?
It’s a team game so he went because he loved her and wanted to make her happy.
Anything that would put a smile on his sweetheart’s face.
Date Night Trouble Looming
His complaint didn’t go down too well and she was a little hurt by it. In fact, she saw it as a red flag and started to accuse him of not loving her.
You know how this goes…”if you really loved me you would do it for me”.
That’s not the idea of a date night. It’s not a one-way street.
You experience his choices no matter how much you have to grin and bear it and he reciprocates.
When they realized this they got their relationship back on track. Happy ending.
Extreme Date Night Ideas For Married Couples
Every now and again you’ll get the urge to do something a little brash. Do you want to spice it up a tad.
This is recommended more for couples without kids but even if you have children, you could still make this work.
Dean and Melissa had been doing date nights for a long time and while they were enjoying them and each other’s company, they had a “hankering” to take it to the next level.
Melissa had to travel to a nearby town to complete a realtor’s exam. She asked Dean if he would like to go with her and he said…“why not! Let’s make it an overnight stay”.
They got to their destination the night before the exam and were up early the following morning. Melissa went about her business and Dean stayed behind at the hotel.
While Dean was waiting for her to return he had a light bulb moment. They were in South Georgia. Neither of them had any work commitments for several days and Orlando was just six hours away. Road trip!
Too Extreme For A Date Night Idea?
No, not at all. If you’ve got the time and the enthusiasm, can you think of anything more spontaneous.
When Melissa got back Dean excitedly said “Quick, let’s grab our stuff were heading to Orlando!”
This couple were usually compatibly spontaneous and without “blinking an eyelid”, Melissa embraced him and just happened to mention…”this could be our date night this week!”
She didn’t get any argument from Dean and within minutes, they were off on Highway 75 towards Orlando.
How about that for a novel idea. Three days in Orlando…Universal Studios, Disneyworld, Sea World, a trip to the Space Center…take your pick.
In all their excitement, Melissa forgot to tell Dean she aced her exam. More reason to celebrate.
A date night in the extreme but can you see how exciting this would be. Doing stuff like this just seems to forge a stronger bond between couples. That “us and them” mentality.
It screams “we’re a team!” Isn’t that what a happy marriage is all about?
And isn’t that what relationships are all about?
So, have you got something in mind that has both some spontaneity and a little “out of the box” type feel?
Don’t orchestrate this. The thrill and rush comes from the on the spot decision to do it.
I’d love to hear from you if you have pulled this off or are thinking seriously about trying it.
You know, sometimes you just have to shake off the shackles of the day-to-day grind and just let it go.
Your marriage will be all the better for it. And plus, you’ll both earn a reputation as a couple of daredevils.
If you want that.