So how long does the honeymoon phase last? In my first marriage, it lasted a couple…
Think you may have a cheating husband on your hands? This article examines seven signs he could be cheating.
Just remember, it’s not intended to establish anything here other than to give you some clues to work from. These are just signs, nothing more. In a previous article, we looked at the signs of a cheating wife.
It was interesting looking at the search stats and discovering the term “cheating wife” gets almost ten times the queries “cheating husband” does.
Not kidding! This will be a discussion for another day. Meanwhile, do you think your husband is the same guy that you started dating? Ok, he looks the same, walks the same and smells the same.
Wait. Maybe he doesn’t smell the same. What’s up with that? Have you been wondering? Is he cheating on you? If you’ve been living together for any length of time you’ll quickly learn each other’s habits and quirks.
The truth is, any change, even the slightest change that is unannounced, could be a sign your husband is cheating on you.
7 Signs Of A Cheating Husband
Here are seven signs of a possible cheating husband.
Again, we say possible because no one has been convicted yet.
However, if any of these are at play in your relationship right now, it might be time to have a talk.
Normal Behavior Is Not So Normal
People generally are creatures of habit. Any slight change to someone’s routine could be sounding alarm bells for the relationship.
- Have you noticed anything different with your husband’s routine?
- Is he going to work earlier?
- Is he coming home later?
- Has he changed his after shave without any input from you?
- What type of food is he eating now?
- Has his dress code changed for the better?
These are just some of the signs that trigger suspicion in relationships and ignoring them may not be a good idea.
If your husband has exhibited at least two of these signs lately unannounced, then it might be time to sit down and have a talk.
A Cheating Husband Will Suddenly Start Criticizing His Wife
Has your husband been overly critical of you lately? If this is normal behavior then don’t worry.
But if it’s totally out of character with his normal demeanor, it’s time to ask him what’s going on?
Being critical could be a result of comparing you to someone else with different tastes, opinions and an appearance he likes.
It doesn’t mean he’s cheating but he could be getting “chummy” with someone else.
It happens… a lot!
Maybe it’s his guilt and way of masking it. Unless you ask what’s going on, you’ll never know.
A Cheating Husband Can Suddenly Become More Secretive
This is a classic sign and not many people can pull it off.
For example, the phone rings and he grabs it and quickly goes outside to talk.
He gets a text, checks the name and disappears into the bathroom. You ask him who called or sent a text and he says “no one” or “it’s a sales call”.
Bottomline? He is being overly protective of his phone calls. If this is unusual and it didn’t bother him before, you might be hearing distant alarm bells.
He no longer shares any information with you about his phone conversations. Is this normal in your relationship?
If not, something might be up and if your gut is telling you it’s strange or your feeling some anxiety, you guessed it, time to talk.
He’s Suddenly Into Fitness – Signs Of An Unfaithful Husband?
If your husband isn’t a fitness nut or exercises sparsely but suddenly becomes a gym junkie without warning, this could be a sign he’s not being entirely honest with you.
Is he someone who hasn’t been concerned about a little extra weight in the past? Is he usually flippant about extra weight and wears it like a badge?
What’s the reason he gave you about his sudden new love for fitness and looking good? Is he cheating? Maybe? Here’s another scenario…
How about if his fitness levels haven’t changed and he never seems to raise a sweat. But he’s been hitting the gym almost every day of the week?
Again, not good news right? However, it’s still circumstantial evidence.
If he suddenly withdraws from affectionate moments with you and is hard to pin down for even a kiss and a hug, then that’s not good. Now it’s time for concern. Improving his appearance coupled with withdrawing a lot of attention from you equals suspicious activity. You are entitled to ask “what’s going on?”
He Often Mentions Another Woman In Your Conversations
Now this seems obvious but the truth is, many women miss this or interpret it as harmless.
Have you noticed this?
As Richard Dreyfuss famously exclaims in the movie “Jaws”…”Probably is Martin, probably is, but we have to make sure…”
If he is talking about someone else a lot then it’s obvious she is on his mind. Shouldn’t you be concerned?
Probably. But the moment you should be really worried about a possible cheating husband is if all of a sudden, you don’t hear her name anymore.
Wait. What? Think about that for a moment. (Insert Jaws music overlay).
He Rarely Answers His Phone First Time
If you love someone, and their name comes up on your phone you answer it. And you usually answer it fast, even if you’re busy.
That’s part of relationship 101 etiquette.
Are you getting your husband’s message bank a lot these days? Or he always misses you first time and then calls you back within a few minutes?
If this is abnormal behavior for him and has started happening suddenly, it might be time to worry.
You might have grounds to ask questions.
It may be he has a legitimate excuse. But if he’s been going AWOL a lot lately and you can never reach him, that’s a danger sign that your relationship might be about to “hit a bump”.
He Accuses You Of Cheating
This is a classic sign of cheating. It usually involves narcissistic behavior.
You suspect your husband is cheating on you and every time you want answers, the conversation is turned around and you’re “in the gun”.
He turns the accusation around on you.
Then you are the one who has to defend yourself.
Or he accuses you of being nutty or too clingy. And every time it happens you never get an answer.
Does this sound familiar?
A Cheating Husband? Please Avoid A Witch Hunt
You’re all fired up now and ready to nail your “cheating husband” as soon as he walks through the door.
Or you’ve invited your friends and family over to confront him with an intervention as soon as he comes home.
Whoa! “Hold your horses”.
While we’ve given you seven legitimate signs your husband could be cheating, confronting him head on with accusations is not a good idea.
How would you react if someone came at you “like a bull at a gate” with accusations.
Instead, stay calm and rational.
Ask him to sit down with you and have an adult conversation.
But not over dinner and not over drinks.
Sit down somewhere quiet together and talk about what’s going on.
Express your concerns about his behavior lately compared to when you first met and ask him to be completely honest with you.
Chances are he won’t but this is your time to play body language expert and judge his responses.
If his responses are defensive or he is very nervous about answering and defers, you might have grounds for suspicion.
I had reservations about putting this article together. I want to reiterate – this is not a witch hunt.
If you searched for cheating husband signs online then you’re already worried. And your “spider senses” have already been activated.
One last thing.
Ask him straight out if he still loves you.
Again, watch for his body language. It may not be what you want to hear but if he doesn’t love you, why waste your time in this relationship.
The “do you still love me” question is a tough one to answer with a lie.
They may respond with a lie verbally but body language never does.
Unless he’s a cold-blooded narcissist of course.
If he is, then the question should be, why are you with him in the first place?